For someone in a committed relationship, an emotional affair is a worrisome symptom of something deeper. An emotional affair often represents a lack of emotional contentment at home. But emotional intimacy with a person outside of the relationship can erode and eventually destroy the marriage or partnership. Realistically, ending an emotional affair offers the only … Read more
If you try to tackle a big project and end up getting stuck somewhere along the way, it might mean that some steps are missing.
Imagine trying to complete a difficult, 1,000-piece jigsaw puzzle. Even though it has a thousand pieces, finishing the puzzle requires to complete more than a thousand steps.
You need to spend time sorting, grouping, and looking for edge pieces. You also might have to undo some parts of your work as you go along—which adds more steps, since now you need to override previous tasks that you thought had been completed.
This is all logical enough, but a) it takes time, and b) if you haven’t ever done a large puzzle before, you might get frustrated. You might give up along the way, leaving your puzzle half-finished and sitting on the kitchen table for weeks. Finally, you push the pieces back into the box, swearing off puzzles until the next family holiday gathering or global pandemic.
Maybe the root cause of puzzle neglect could be traced to the beginning: you underestimated the number of steps, as well as the amount of effort that would be required to persevere beyond the easy ones.
Two weeks ago, I asked a question in my newsletter: “Why haven’t you started?”
My theory was that a lot of people (maybe even most of us) have something that we really want to do, but we struggle with making any real progress. The more I investigate this question, the more I believe that the answer is twofold.
First, we struggle in getting started because we don’t really know what the first steps are. Often there are prerequisites, steps you have to complete before the “official” first steps, which effectively means that your list of steps is incomplete. There’s an obvious solution to problem one: we need better lists of steps.
But that’s not all! The other reason we struggle has to do with self-doubt or some other internal obstacle.
In response to my question, a lot of readers said something like this:
“I know what to do, I just can’t bring myself to do it.”
“I’ve been thinking about it for years, but I still haven’t done anything.”
“I failed once, so I’m afraid to try again.”
In these situations, having a better list of steps doesn’t fully solve the problem—or perhaps we could say that step one is “learn to believe in yourself.” This will require some more investigation, so I’ll let you know what I come up with.
Until then, know your steps, and have confidence in yourself. Puzzles are hard for a reason!
P.S. One more thing: in jigsaw puzzles, as well as many other challenging endeavors, some steps are harder than others. Some sections may actually be easy, and even in a hard puzzle, putting in the last few pieces is going to be a lot easier than the ones in the middle.
“Why do I suck at life?” Yes, that question sounds harsh and negative. You probably don’t know why you’re feeling this way. Or maybe you do, but you’ve stopped trying to explain it to anyone else. The last thing you want right now is to be told to “snap out of it.” It’s not that … Read more
How do you feel about Mondays? Do you dread them because they feel hectic? Do you pine after Sunday, feeling like you never truly had time to rest? Sunday should feel like the most replenishing day of the week, but often it escapes us and goes by too quickly.
If you can relate, try giving your Sunday routine a makeover. The best way to start a new week on the right foot begins with the actions you take on the Sunday beforehand. You can use Sundays to relax and prepare for the week ahead so you feel refreshed and clear-minded come Monday morning.
In this post, I’m sharing a look at my Sunday routine which includes some planning, meal prepping, and downtime away from social media and work. If you’re in need of some inspiration for a relaxing yet productive Sunday routine, I hope this post helps!
A Relaxing & Productive Sunday Routine
One of the most important factors of my Sunday routine is that I stay away from social media, my inbox, and computer screens. I set downtime for social media apps on my phone all day so I’m not tempted to check them.
At this point, it’s ingrained into my routine to avoid social media so I don’t feel tempted to check it on Sundays. In fact, I look forward to not going on it every week. This has definitely improved my mindset and attitude towards Mondays and has helped to get rid of those Sunday scaries.
Here are the 7 things I do to relax, prepare for the week, and clear my headspace on Sundays:
Wake up without an alarm
I realize not everyone can do this, but it makes Sundays feel a little more special when you don’t have to worry about what time you have to wake up.
I always wash the bed sheets on a Sunday because there’s nothing quite as satisfying as climbing into a fresh bed on a Sunday night. I usually do this as soon as I get out of bed in the morning to make sure I don’t sneakily try to climb back in.
I try to clean my apartment in under an hour because cleaning is not something I love doing. This includes cleaning the countertops (bathrooms, kitchen, living room) and vacuuming. Recently I did this on a Saturday night so that I wouldn’t have to do it on a Sunday (I know, exciting Saturday plans).
Cooking is the last thing I want to do at the end of a weekday, so meal prepping has made my life a lot easier throughout the week. There are a few things I tend to eat each week no matter what, so I pretty much always cook them ahead of time on Sundays.
I’ll dice up sweet potatoes and lay them on a baking sheet, then whip up some easy protein muffins and throw them both in the oven at the same time. I’ll also cook a batch of rice to eat for lunches or dinners throughout the week. If I bought veggies and fruits (I usually grocery shop on a Saturday), I’ll wash and chop those ahead of time. I also like to make at least one full meal ahead of time, so usually that’s turkey chili, chickpea curry, or lentil tortilla soup.
Since I stay away from social media and my laptop, I try to spend a good chunk of the day absorbed in a book. I’ve read more than I have in a long time since I started this Sunday routine. If you want to know what I’ve been reading lately, feel free to follow me on Goodreads.
I like to review my big picture goals before the start of the week. This is especially helpful when it comes to planning my weekly schedule and making sure I’m being intentional with my time. If it’s a goal that’s easily measured (i.e. pay off x amount of debt), I’ll update my progress to see if I’m on track or need to make improvements.
There you have it! I hope you found some inspiration from my Sunday routine. If you want more ideas for how to use your Sunday to the fullest, check out this post: 20 Productive Things To Do On A Sunday.