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The Opportunity in Adversity

By Eckhart Tolle

Life unfolds between the polarities of order and chaos. It is important at this time to recognize these two fundamental opposites, without which the world could not even be. Another word for disorder is “adversity.” When it becomes more extreme, we might call it “chaos.”

We would prefer, of course, to have order in our lives, which means to have things going well. We would like relative harmony in our lives. Yet, that very often is marred by the eruption of some form of disorder. And, usually, we resent that—we get angry, or despondent, or sad.

Disorder comes in many, many forms, big and small. When disorder comes it usually creates a kind of havoc in our lives, accompanied by strong underlying beliefs. “There’s something very wrong, this should not be happening, maybe God is against me,” and so on. Again, we need to understand that disorder, or adversity, is inevitable and is an essential part of a higher order.

 From a higher perspective, a higher level, the existence of order and disorder, or order and chaos, is a necessary part of the evolution of life.

 Many people have found that they experience a deepening, or a deeper sense of self or beingness, immediately after and as a result of having endured a period of disorder or chaos. This is sometimes called “the dark night of the soul,” a term from medieval Christianity used to describe the mental breakdown that many mystics experienced prior to awakening spiritually. There was an eruption of disorder, of destruction. Then, out of that, a deeper realization arose.

 And although that can be very painful, the strange thing is, it’s precisely there that many humans experience a transcendence. A strange fact is that it almost never happens that people awaken spiritually while they’re in their comfort zone. Or that they become deeper as human beings, which would be a partial awakening. It almost never happens. The place where the evolutionary shift happens, or the evolutionary leap, is usually the experience of disorder in a person’s life.

And so your life then moves between order and disorder. You have both, and they’re both necessary. There’s no guarantee that when disorder erupts this will bring about an awakening or a deepening, but there’s always the possibility. It is an opportunity, but often, it is missed.

 So here we are at this time, and our mission is the same: to align with the present moment, with whatever is happening here and now. The upheaval that we’re experiencing at the present time probably will not be the last upheaval that’s going to come on a collective level. However, it is an opportunity—because although this is a time for upheavals, it is also a time for awakening. The two go together. Just as in an individual life, you need adversity to awaken. It’s an opportunity but not a guarantee. And so what looks tragic and unpleasant on a conventional level is actually perfectly fine and as it should be on a higher level; it would not be happening otherwise. It’s all part of the awakening of human beings and of planetary awakening.

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The most significant advantage of being a social chameleon is the ability to blend into any social environment.   They pick up on social cues and take on the personality traits of those around them. Take a moment just to imagine a total lack of social awkwardness and how that must feel.  (Yeah, I can’t either.) …

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If you could wave a magic wand…

What kind of world would you want to live in?

Change-makers Tammy Tibbetts & Christen Brandt dream of a world where every girl is educated, respected, and heard. A world where women are able to create change. A world where girls everywhere are safe and loved.

For 11 years, they’ve worked toward that vision, leading social change through She’s the First — a non-profit I’ve supported since 2014 alongside Michelle Obama, the United Nations, Diane von Fürstenberg, and more than 200 campus chapters worldwide.

She’s the First finds, funds, and supports local organizations to educate and empower girls, so one day we can live in a world where every girl can choose her own future.


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After more than a decade leading the way, Tammy and Christen know what it takes to create positive lasting change and that everyone’s contribution matters. They’re on MarieTV today debuting their new book, Impact: A Step-By-Step Plan to Create the World You Want to Live In.

If you know you’re meant to make a difference but aren’t sure how, this conversation is a must-watch.

You’ll learn:

  • Three reasons well-meaning people get stuck.
  • How to discover your own special gift.
  • A visualization exercise to uncover your calling.
  • How being voted “most shy” in high school inspired a global movement.
  • How to hold healthy boundaries without becoming defensive.
  • What to say when someone “shoulds” on you.
  • The difference between a Band-Aid and a long-term fix — and why we need both.
  • Why good intentions aren’t enough.
  • The critical difference between helping, fixing, and serving.
  • Why 2020 is our “masterclass in resilience.”

Tammy and Christen walk their talk and will inspire you to make the difference you were born to make.

But don’t worry — they won’t tell you to find the perfect cause, donate all your money to charity, or volunteer every night and weekend.

As Tammy says, “No one can do everything, but everyone can do something.”

Hit play to watch now or listen on The Marie Forleo Podcast to find YOUR something.

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DIVE DEEPER: Learn more from Tammy Tibbetts of She’s the First on how educating girls changes the world and then finally find your calling with Rha Goddess.

Feeling inspired? Profound change only happens when we turn our inspiration into action. In the comments below, let us know your biggest insight and how you plan to act on it now.

If you’re not quite clear on your vision of the world, try this exercise to discover what Christen and Tammy call your “North Star.” It’s one of my favorite chapters in the book, which goes deep into uncovering your personal experiences and how they’re connected to the change you want to create in the world. 

Close your eyes and think about the world you want to see in 10 years. Then 20 years. What kind of world would you hope to see 100 years from now? See it vividly like a movie in your mind.

Now on a piece of paper, write down your answers to these two questions:

  • Describe in detail your vision of the world you’d like to see in 20 years.
  • What are the biggest differences between your vision and the world we’re living in right now?

Your path of impact lives in the gap between the world you want to see and the world you live in now.

Use that clear vision as your goal, but don’t be overwhelmed. Progress happens one tiny step at a time.

As Tammy says, “If you have a setback, don’t feel discouraged. This is a long game, and it will take a lifetime. You’re building a legacy.”

XO

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If you could go back in time and give advice to yourself right before the pandemic hit, what would you say?

Here’s my answer. Let’s assume it’s January 2020, just as we’re beginning to hear news about a strange virus in Wuhan, China…

Welcome to the beginning of the strangest year the modern world has ever known. You don’t realize it now, but life as you know it is about to change drastically.

Remember how you’ve been talking to everyone about “working from anywhere” for the past decade? Well, now the entire workforce will be leaving their offices and telecommuting. One problem: they can’t actually go anywhere. Working remotely usually implies freedom, but in this case it points to constraint. Simply put, the workforce is working remotely because it’s not safe to work together.

Most of the world’s borders will have closed, though if you want to visit the Maldives, you can buy an unlimited pass to a luxury hotel for all of 2021.

So that’s what you’re looking at! Let’s make a plan. Making plans is something you’re good at.

STEP 1: LOGISTICS.

First things first, buy stock in Zoom and Tesla. Pretty soon the whole world will be using Zoom, even kids in elementary school. “I think you’re muted” will be the new “Can you hear me now?” No one knows why Tesla’s stock keeps rising, but buy it anyway.

Next, start wearing a mask sooner rather than later. Wash your hands frequently, and stop touching your face ten times an hour. Oh, and forget about that forty-city tour you’ve been planning for six months. It’s not going to happen this year.

STEP 2: LET GO.

This time will be unlike anything you’ve experienced. Weirdly, it will be unlike anything that anyone has experienced.

You might feel disconcerted or worried. You won’t understand why other people don’t feel the way you do. You’ll be mad at the people who say it’s all a hoax, and frustrated at the ones who are so afraid that they let it affect every part of their lives. At times, you’ll feel more or less optimistic, but these times won’t always coincide with how other people feel.

You’ll try to see it as an opportunity. Lots of “we’ll get through this together” posts and articles will be published, some even by you. Collectively, you’ll cheer on healthcare workers from balconies.

All of this will be in April. But then comes May, June, July, August, September…

STEP 3: LET GO MORE.

Okay, fine, you think. We’ve all had to struggle through this, but now we’re ready to get off the train. It’s time!

But it doesn’t stop. A bizarre class conflict breaks out over whether or not we should take measures to reduce the number of people getting sick. Meanwhile, 400,000 people ride motorcycles to South Dakota. What could go wrong?

It’s hard to relate to the statistics you hear. Well over a million people are dead from something almost no one thought anything about when the year started.

Then you’ll go into winter with higher numbers than before. It’s discouraging, no doubt, but you’re starting to hope again. There are vaccines on the way.

Is it dangerous to hope? Time will tell, but either way, you still have a next step. Your next step, once again, is to use this time to improve yourself.

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STEP 4: RESOLVE TO BE BETTER

Yes, hope is on the way, just as it usually is. Some countries are already distributing these vaccines, and it seems it’s just a matter of time. We will once again be able to have concerts and conferences and hugs with strangers, at least the strangers we want to hug.

The goal now is to see it through. Remain vigilant, but don’t put your entire life on hold. Be cautious but not afraid.

Stay tough during the holidays and do whatever you can to find moments of joy. Put yourself first, and you’ll end up being a better support to others.

All the while, keep your head down and work on something to share with the world in 2021.

It really will come to an end! Hang in there, everyone.

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The most significant advantage of being a social chameleon is the ability to blend into any social environment.   They pick up on social cues and take on the personality traits of those around them. Take a moment just to imagine a total lack of social awkwardness and how that must feel.  (Yeah, I can’t either.) …

Read MoreEverything You Need To Know About A Social Chameleon Personality

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Over the past few months, I’ve been working on being consistent with a few habits to take care of myself throughout quarantine. These are habits that help me avoid “doomscrolling”, get enough sleep, and keep my body moving even when I want to lay on the couch all day.

My struggle with habits is staying consistent and not getting bored. I often talk myself out of being consistent because I think, “Aren’t habits supposed to be fun?” before I’ve even started them.

The easiest way to make self-care stick is through routine and daily habits. Here are 5 self-care habits for your daily routine.

In reality, habits don’t have to be fun. That’s not to say they should make you miserable, but your habits won’t always feel exciting.

I recently finished the book Atomic Habits by James Clear, and it gave me a lot of perspective on how I can be more consistent with my habits. 

Clear says, “Successful people feel the same lack of motivation as everyone else. The difference is that they still find a way to show up despite the feelings of boredom.”

This quote made me realize that boredom is okay. Once you push past the thoughts that tell you it’s going to be hard, it’s often not as bad as you imagined.

5 self-care habits for your daily routine


The easiest way to make self-care stick is through routine and daily habits. Here are 5 self-care habits for your daily routine.

I’m a firm believer that self-care shouldn’t feel like an escape from your life. True self-care should be part of your lifestyle, and the easiest way to make that happen is with your habits and routines.

I’ll admit that I haven’t 100% mastered these, but here are the self-care habits I’m working on right now:

1. Go outside first thing in the morning

Getting sunshine in the morning can help balance your body’s internal clock and make it easier to fall asleep at night, according to SleepFoundation.org. I go for a walk in the afternoon almost every day, but I’ve recently started walking in the morning a few days a week (check out my reel on Instagram here to see my current morning routine).

As winter approaches, it is getting colder and it’s usually raining (good ol’ Seattle for you). Because of that, I don’t know how long I’ll be able to keep up this habit of going outside first thing.

I’ve been thinking about getting a light therapy lamp to help with that. If you’ve had any success with those, leave a comment and let me know!


2. Follow a work-start ritual

Something I learned from Atomic Habits is that the easiest way to get into a habit is to make the first two minutes easy. I try to start my workday by writing, but that often feels daunting as the first step in my routine. What’s easy is making a cup of tea, lighting a candle, and putting on a calm playlist.

The first two minutes of my ritual signal that it’s time to start writing. No matter how hard the writing actually is (it’s often not as hard as I make it out to be), the work-start ritual is easy and calming. 


3. Avoid caffeine after 10 am

Did you know it can take 5-6 hours for half of the caffeine you consume to leave your system? That means if you drink a cup of coffee at 1 pm, it’s probably still going to be in your system if you try to go to sleep at 10 pm. These days, I’ve been drinking green tea with breakfast and then having a cup of English breakfast tea around 9:45 am. I pretty much only drink caffeine-free tea after that.


4. Keep work and self-care spaces separate

It’s been really tempting to work from the couch when I’m at home all day, but it wreaks havoc on my back. Because of that, I’ve made sure I start my workday from my desk. If I want to move to the couch later in the day, that’s fine, but my new rule is that I can’t start the day from the couch.

Related Post: How To Balance Productivity and Rest When You Work From Home


5. Wind-down without screens an hour before bed

A habit I’ve implemented after reading the book The Power of When is creating a wind-down ritual at 10:30 pm. I *try* to spend the last hour without screens, but it usually turns into the last 30 minutes before bed.

Author Michael Breus recommends spending the first 20 minutes of your wind-down routine getting ready for tomorrow, the next 20 minutes for hygiene habits like brushing your teeth, and the last 20 minutes for a calming habit like reading, stretching, or meditating. This structure is something I often forget to do, but I like the breakdown of the wind-down hour so I thought I’d share it.


What are your daily self-care habits?

I hope this post has given you some ideas for adding some calm self-care habits into your routine. I encourage you to find comfort in your habits and try to stay consistent even when it feels tough.

Leave a comment below! What do your daily habits look like right now?


Disclaimer: This post includes affiliate links, which means I will earn a commission if you make a purchase through these links. There is no additional cost to you.

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If you could go back in time and give advice to yourself right before the pandemic hit, what would you say?

Here’s my answer. Let’s assume it’s January 2020, just as we’re beginning to hear news about a strange virus in Wuhan, China…

Welcome to the beginning of the strangest year the modern world has ever known. You don’t realize it now, but life as you know it is about to change drastically.

Remember how you’ve been talking to everyone about “working from anywhere” for the past decade? Well, now the entire workforce will be leaving their offices and telecommuting. One problem: they can’t actually go anywhere. Working remotely usually implies freedom, but in this case it points to constraint. Simply put, the workforce is working remotely because it’s not safe to work together.

Most of the world’s borders will have closed, though if you want to visit the Maldives, you can buy an unlimited pass to a luxury hotel for all of 2021.

So that’s what you’re looking at! Let’s make a plan. Making plans is something you’re good at.

STEP 1: LOGISTICS.

First things first, buy stock in Zoom and Tesla. Pretty soon the whole world will be using Zoom, even kids in elementary school. “I think you’re muted” will be the new “Can you hear me now?” No one knows why Tesla’s stock keeps rising, but buy it anyway.

Next, start wearing a mask sooner rather than later. Wash your hands frequently, and stop touching your face ten times an hour. Oh, and forget about that forty-city tour you’ve been planning for six months. It’s not going to happen this year.

STEP 2: LET GO.

This time will be unlike anything you’ve experienced. Weirdly, it will be unlike anything that anyone has experienced.

You might feel disconcerted or worried. You won’t understand why other people don’t feel the way you do. You’ll be mad at the people who say it’s all a hoax, and frustrated at the ones who are so afraid that they let it affect every part of their lives. At times, you’ll feel more or less optimistic, but these times won’t always coincide with how other people feel.

You’ll try to see it as an opportunity. Lots of “we’ll get through this together” posts and articles will be published, some even by you. Collectively, you’ll cheer on healthcare workers from balconies.

All of this will be in April. But then comes May, June, July, August, September…

STEP 3: LET GO MORE.

Okay, fine, you think. We’ve all had to struggle through this, but now we’re ready to get off the train. It’s time!

But it doesn’t stop. A bizarre class conflict breaks out over whether or not we should take measures to reduce the number of people getting sick. Meanwhile, 400,000 people ride motorcycles to South Dakota. What could go wrong?

It’s hard to relate to the statistics you hear. Well over a million people are dead from something almost no one thought anything about when the year started.

Then you’ll go into winter with higher numbers than before. It’s discouraging, no doubt, but you’re starting to hope again. There are vaccines on the way.

Is it dangerous to hope? Time will tell, but either way, you still have a next step. Your next step, once again, is to use this time to improve yourself.

SoapTrust

STEP 4: RESOLVE TO BE BETTER

Yes, hope is on the way, just as it usually is. Some countries are already distributing these vaccines, and it seems it’s just a matter of time. We will once again be able to have concerts and conferences and hugs with strangers, at least the strangers we want to hug.

The goal now is to see it through. Remain vigilant, but don’t put your entire life on hold. Be cautious but not afraid.

Stay tough during the holidays and do whatever you can to find moments of joy. Put yourself first, and you’ll end up being a better support to others.

All the while, keep your head down and work on something to share with the world in 2021.

It really will come to an end! Hang in there, everyone.

###

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Over the past few months, I’ve been working on being consistent with a few habits to take care of myself throughout quarantine. These are habits that help me avoid “doomscrolling”, get enough sleep, and keep my body moving even when I want to lay on the couch all day.

My struggle with habits is staying consistent and not getting bored. I often talk myself out of being consistent because I think, “Aren’t habits supposed to be fun?” before I’ve even started them.

The easiest way to make self-care stick is through routine and daily habits. Here are 5 self-care habits for your daily routine.

In reality, habits don’t have to be fun. That’s not to say they should make you miserable, but your habits won’t always feel exciting.

I recently finished the book Atomic Habits by James Clear, and it gave me a lot of perspective on how I can be more consistent with my habits. 

Clear says, “Successful people feel the same lack of motivation as everyone else. The difference is that they still find a way to show up despite the feelings of boredom.”

This quote made me realize that boredom is okay. Once you push past the thoughts that tell you it’s going to be hard, it’s often not as bad as you imagined.

5 self-care habits for your daily routine


The easiest way to make self-care stick is through routine and daily habits. Here are 5 self-care habits for your daily routine.

I’m a firm believer that self-care shouldn’t feel like an escape from your life. True self-care should be part of your lifestyle, and the easiest way to make that happen is with your habits and routines.

I’ll admit that I haven’t 100% mastered these, but here are the self-care habits I’m working on right now:

1. Go outside first thing in the morning

Getting sunshine in the morning can help balance your body’s internal clock and make it easier to fall asleep at night, according to SleepFoundation.org. I go for a walk in the afternoon almost every day, but I’ve recently started walking in the morning a few days a week (check out my reel on Instagram here to see my current morning routine).

As winter approaches, it is getting colder and it’s usually raining (good ol’ Seattle for you). Because of that, I don’t know how long I’ll be able to keep up this habit of going outside first thing.

I’ve been thinking about getting a light therapy lamp to help with that. If you’ve had any success with those, leave a comment and let me know!


2. Follow a work-start ritual

Something I learned from Atomic Habits is that the easiest way to get into a habit is to make the first two minutes easy. I try to start my workday by writing, but that often feels daunting as the first step in my routine. What’s easy is making a cup of tea, lighting a candle, and putting on a calm playlist.

The first two minutes of my ritual signal that it’s time to start writing. No matter how hard the writing actually is (it’s often not as hard as I make it out to be), the work-start ritual is easy and calming. 


3. Avoid caffeine after 10 am

Did you know it can take 5-6 hours for half of the caffeine you consume to leave your system? That means if you drink a cup of coffee at 1 pm, it’s probably still going to be in your system if you try to go to sleep at 10 pm. These days, I’ve been drinking green tea with breakfast and then having a cup of English breakfast tea around 9:45 am. I pretty much only drink caffeine-free tea after that.


4. Keep work and self-care spaces separate

It’s been really tempting to work from the couch when I’m at home all day, but it wreaks havoc on my back. Because of that, I’ve made sure I start my workday from my desk. If I want to move to the couch later in the day, that’s fine, but my new rule is that I can’t start the day from the couch.

Related Post: How To Balance Productivity and Rest When You Work From Home


5. Wind-down without screens an hour before bed

A habit I’ve implemented after reading the book The Power of When is creating a wind-down ritual at 10:30 pm. I *try* to spend the last hour without screens, but it usually turns into the last 30 minutes before bed.

Author Michael Breus recommends spending the first 20 minutes of your wind-down routine getting ready for tomorrow, the next 20 minutes for hygiene habits like brushing your teeth, and the last 20 minutes for a calming habit like reading, stretching, or meditating. This structure is something I often forget to do, but I like the breakdown of the wind-down hour so I thought I’d share it.


What are your daily self-care habits?

I hope this post has given you some ideas for adding some calm self-care habits into your routine. I encourage you to find comfort in your habits and try to stay consistent even when it feels tough.

Leave a comment below! What do your daily habits look like right now?


Disclaimer: This post includes affiliate links, which means I will earn a commission if you make a purchase through these links. There is no additional cost to you.

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