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With quarantine limitations still in order here in the US, spending so much time at home has brought up some interesting challenges.

Even though I’ve worked from home for two years, this period of time has taught me that working from home can easily blur the lines between work and self-care.

When your home is also your office, bringing work into your self-care space can create some hazy boundaries. This makes it hard to a) find the motivation to work and/or b) switch off from work.

Working from home can blur the lines between productivity and self-care. Here's how to balance work and self-care when you work from home.

When I was working in an office, I found it easy to mentally check out from work as soon as I left the office at 5pm. But now, I’ll catch myself making dinner at 5 then going back to my computer while I eat (so bad, I know).

Working from home means the same place where you eat, relax, and socialize becomes associated with work.

If you’re on regular Zoom calls, your work meetings are now in your sacred space. It’s almost like inviting your co-workers into your living room for a meeting.

To add to this, your typical forms of escape from work might not be available with quarantine limitations still in effect. For example, the yoga studio, the gym, your local pool, and the coffee shop where you would catch up with a friend.

The places and activities that you associate with self-care aren’t available right now. This can make it hard to disengage from work while simultaneously making you feel like you’re resting too much.

In this post, I’m sharing a few tips that have been helping me to set boundaries so I can better balance work and rest from home.

How To Balance Work & Self-Care When You Work From Home


Working from home can blur the lines between productivity and self-care. Here's how to balance work and self-care when you work from home.

1. Create a ritual to bookmark the start and end of the day

When working in an office, your commute might have been your signal that the workday was starting or ending. Working from home makes it a little harder to keep a similar structure.

A friend of mine said during the first few weeks of working from home, she would roll out of bed at 7:55am to check in on her computer at 8am. She was enjoying getting the extra sleep knowing she didn’t have to commute.  After doing this for a while, she started to crave some time to herself before work. She began getting up around 7 instead to make time for a cup of tea and journaling, which gives her a chance to get ready for the day ahead.

Be intentional with how you want to start and end your day. Think of the time before and after work like your wind-up and wind-down time.

At the end of the day, do whatever you can to get out of the work mentality. Turn off your computer screen, close your laptop, and get away from your desk. I also find that going for a walk around the block at the end of the workday helps to decompress, and it almost feels like a mini-commute (but much more enjoyable). 


2. Set a time to stop working and checking notifications

When you’re spending most of your time at home, it’s tempting to check your phone or computer after hours. Since they’re always in close proximity, you might find it hard to resist checking in if you find yourself with nothing to do. 

Create a boundary to help you maintain this separation between work and rest time. That might look like not checking emails before 8am or after 5pm, or setting app limits from 6pm until 8am the next day.

On the weekends, it can be tempting to work when you have the resources right in front of you. If you want a work-free weekend, try putting your laptop out of sight, keep your office door closed (if you have an office), and delete your email app from your phone until Monday.

The thing is that you have to set these boundaries for yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.


3. Separate your spaces for work and self-care

Try to create separate spaces, even if they’re small, to separate your work and self-care areas. For example, I have a corner in my living room that I’ve dedicated as my workout spot (which just means it’s where I put my workout mat). It’s not very big, but it’s enough space to do what I need to do.

Another example is sticking to doing work from a dedicated area. If you’ve been using your couch or bed for both work and relaxation, it might be sending confusing signals to your brain. I find that when I work on the couch, I’m less productive and it’s harder to concentrate (even if I’m not watching anything on TV). My back and legs also tend to hurt more because my coffee table isn’t tall enough to work from. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with working from these spots sometimes, but it’s better to have a desk and chair set-up that you use exclusively for work.

If you don’t have the space to separate your work and non-work life, try to create different moods in your home.

For example, you can use scents, sounds, and textures (from clothing) for different times of the day. You could use one essential oil during work and another one for after work. Or you can wear form-fitting (but still comfy) clothes during work and change into your comfiest, loose clothing afterward. Subtle changes like this can create the illusion of separation when you don’t have much space to work with.


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The Opportunity in Adversity

By Eckhart Tolle

Life unfolds between the polarities of order and chaos. It is important at this time to recognize these two fundamental opposites, without which the world could not even be. Another word for disorder is “adversity.” When it becomes more extreme, we might call it “chaos.”

We would prefer, of course, to have order in our lives, which means to have things going well. We would like relative harmony in our lives. Yet, that very often is marred by the eruption of some form of disorder. And, usually, we resent that—we get angry, or despondent, or sad.

Disorder comes in many, many forms, big and small. When disorder comes it usually creates a kind of havoc in our lives, accompanied by strong underlying beliefs. “There’s something very wrong, this should not be happening, maybe God is against me,” and so on. Again, we need to understand that disorder, or adversity, is inevitable and is an essential part of a higher order.

 From a higher perspective, a higher level, the existence of order and disorder, or order and chaos, is a necessary part of the evolution of life.

 Many people have found that they experience a deepening, or a deeper sense of self or beingness, immediately after and as a result of having endured a period of disorder or chaos. This is sometimes called “the dark night of the soul,” a term from medieval Christianity used to describe the mental breakdown that many mystics experienced prior to awakening spiritually. There was an eruption of disorder, of destruction. Then, out of that, a deeper realization arose.

 And although that can be very painful, the strange thing is, it’s precisely there that many humans experience a transcendence. A strange fact is that it almost never happens that people awaken spiritually while they’re in their comfort zone. Or that they become deeper as human beings, which would be a partial awakening. It almost never happens. The place where the evolutionary shift happens, or the evolutionary leap, is usually the experience of disorder in a person’s life.

And so your life then moves between order and disorder. You have both, and they’re both necessary. There’s no guarantee that when disorder erupts this will bring about an awakening or a deepening, but there’s always the possibility. It is an opportunity, but often, it is missed.

 So here we are at this time, and our mission is the same: to align with the present moment, with whatever is happening here and now. The upheaval that we’re experiencing at the present time probably will not be the last upheaval that’s going to come on a collective level. However, it is an opportunity—because although this is a time for upheavals, it is also a time for awakening. The two go together. Just as in an individual life, you need adversity to awaken. It’s an opportunity but not a guarantee. And so what looks tragic and unpleasant on a conventional level is actually perfectly fine and as it should be on a higher level; it would not be happening otherwise. It’s all part of the awakening of human beings and of planetary awakening.

To learn more about Eckhart’s teachings on Conscious Manifestation, click here.

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By Leo Babauta

I was talking with a group of people in my Sea Change Program who had success with some difficult habits for a few months … and then hit a dip.

This dip is something everyone faces when changing habits: we lose motivation, we get discouraged, we encounter difficulty, we lose focus because other things get in the way, we get sidetracked by life.

The dip is completely normal and even predictable when you’re changing an old habit or forming a new one. In fact, anytime you take on a project or goal, you will face this kind of dip.

That’s the bad news — you’ll always hit a dip in motivation, focus, energy.

But there’s good news too:

  1. The dip is temporary, if you keep going through it; and
  2. The dip is an incredible place of learning

The last point is so important I need to repeat it: the dip is an incredible place of learning.

It’s the place where we learn and grow, and get better at facing difficulty.

When things are going well, everything seems easy, and you just have to keep doing the same thing. There isn’t a lot of learning there.

But when things are hard, you have to face the difficulty if you want to keep going, if you want to avoid going to your usual pattern of discouraging yourself or quitting.

The dip is where the most learning can be found.

The Learning of the Dip

There’s so much to learn in the habit dip (and all other dips of motivation & focus):

  • How to face difficulty instead of avoiding it
  • How to encourage yourself when you feel discouraged
  • How to let go of the ideal you have that’s making you feel discouraged
  • How to deal with your difficult emotions of frustration, discouragement, fear
  • How to nourish yourself when you’re feeling depleted
  • How to give yourself compassion when you feel you’re doing something wrong
  • How to not run for your usual methods of control, avoidance, quitting when things are hard
  • How to practice letting go of your usual focus on your self-concern

This is just some of what’s there. There’s so much more. It’s incredibly rich, if you learn to open up to the dip.

The Dip is Temporary, if You Keep Going

Habit and motivation dips are always temporary. Everyone who has run a marathon or ultramathon knows what it’s like to want to quit, to get bored with training, to feel discouraged when things are hard. And so many of us who’ve faced that have finished the marathon!

We’ve all given up when things are discouraging. We’ve all avoided even thinking about getting back on track when we’ve been thrown off the track. We’ve all messed up on projects and goals and habits. We’re human!

But if we get back on track, if we encourage ourselves when things are dark, if we find compassion for ourselves when we’re not living up to our made-up ideals … there’s more available down the road.

Everything is temporary, even failure, even success, even getting off track. These are not the end points, they’re waypoints. Keep going.

How to Practice with It

So if you’re ready to learn while you’re in the dip, then there are ways to practice and gain from this difficult area:

  1. Come in with a learning mindset, one that is focused on growing instead of judging yourself.
  2. Let go of your ideals, and bring curiosity instead. What can you find out about this?
  3. Learn to face the difficult feelings in this area. Bring mindfulness to them, feel the bodily sensation of them. They’re not a big deal, just emotions.
  4. Notice how you’re discouraging yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for discouraging yourself! But notice what you do.
  5. Find ways to encourage yourself instead. Find ways to give yourself compassion. These are incredible skills to practice!
  6. Find something new to learn, every time you bring your awareness to the dip. What else can you find out? And what else?

If you go in with a mindset to embrace this difficult area, you’ll actually find your own ways to practice. But start with these.

If you can bring this mindset, so much is there for you. Be grateful when you find it.

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Great advice everyone’s sick of hearing in 2020:

Look on the bright side!
There’s always a silver lining.
Everything happens for a reason.

Even as a relentless optimist, this year has brought seemingly never-ending reminders that we never know what’s coming next. It’s in these times of uncertainty that we need hope the most.

Today on MarieTV is a woman who knows about the resiliency of the human spirit. Dr. Edith Eva Eger survived the Holocaust, became an eminent psychologist and PTSD expert, and might be my favorite MarieTV guest of all time.

She wrote her first book at age 90 and just published The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your Life, which should be required reading for all human beings. This is not hyperbolic. I’ve read thousands of books at this point, and I assert this with confidence. 

Edith writes, “I can’t say that everything happens for a reason, that there’s a purpose in injustice or suffering, but I can say that pain, hardship, and suffering are the gift that helps us grow, and learn, and become who we are meant to be.”


I can't say that everything happens for a reason, but I can say that pain, hardship, and suffering are the gifts that help us grow, and learn, and become who we are meant to be. @DrEdithEger1
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This powerhouse of a woman radiated strength and love throughout our conversation. We laughed. We cried. We high-kicked. She shows us all how to find the gift in everything, especially that which is most painful, difficult, and heart-breaking.

If you’ve ever been… human, this one is a MUST-watch, must-listen, and must-share.

You’ll learn:

1:19 — The story of Edie’s 1st day in Auschwitz & the decision she never forgave herself for.
9:52 — Want a good life? What to say to yourself when you get up in the morning.
10:49 — Why Auschwitz was “hell on earth” and “the best classroom.”
17:03 — How to comfort someone who’s in pain with just 2 words.
23:44 — The secret to staying young (and publishing a book at 92!)
26:42 — Her unbelievable response when a patient said, “I want to make America white again.”
36:34 — The difference between faith and belief.

Watch ‘til the end and you’ll get to see us both high-kick for joy. 

Hit play to watch now or listen on The Marie Forleo Podcast.

View Transcript

Check out this episode on The Marie Forleo Podcast

Listen Now

DIVE DEEPER: Learn What To Say (and Not Say) When Someone Suffers a Tragedy and How To Turn Negative Vibes into Positive Fuel

What’s your biggest aha or take away from today’s episode with Dr. Edith Eger?

It’s important to take time to reflect because our thoughts are SO powerful. As Edith writes in The Gift, “I now recognize the most damaging prison is in our mind, and the key is in our pocket. It’s possible to break free from whatever holds us back. It’s not easy, but so worth it.”

In the comments below, let me know one thing that is giving you hope right now OR share a time you found the gift in a challenging experience.

Your words are a gift to this community. Thank you for being here and for being YOU.

All my love,

XO

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The Opportunity in Adversity

By Eckhart Tolle

Life unfolds between the polarities of order and chaos. It is important at this time to recognize these two fundamental opposites, without which the world could not even be. Another word for disorder is “adversity.” When it becomes more extreme, we might call it “chaos.”

We would prefer, of course, to have order in our lives, which means to have things going well. We would like relative harmony in our lives. Yet, that very often is marred by the eruption of some form of disorder. And, usually, we resent that—we get angry, or despondent, or sad.

Disorder comes in many, many forms, big and small. When disorder comes it usually creates a kind of havoc in our lives, accompanied by strong underlying beliefs. “There’s something very wrong, this should not be happening, maybe God is against me,” and so on. Again, we need to understand that disorder, or adversity, is inevitable and is an essential part of a higher order.

 From a higher perspective, a higher level, the existence of order and disorder, or order and chaos, is a necessary part of the evolution of life.

 Many people have found that they experience a deepening, or a deeper sense of self or beingness, immediately after and as a result of having endured a period of disorder or chaos. This is sometimes called “the dark night of the soul,” a term from medieval Christianity used to describe the mental breakdown that many mystics experienced prior to awakening spiritually. There was an eruption of disorder, of destruction. Then, out of that, a deeper realization arose.

 And although that can be very painful, the strange thing is, it’s precisely there that many humans experience a transcendence. A strange fact is that it almost never happens that people awaken spiritually while they’re in their comfort zone. Or that they become deeper as human beings, which would be a partial awakening. It almost never happens. The place where the evolutionary shift happens, or the evolutionary leap, is usually the experience of disorder in a person’s life.

And so your life then moves between order and disorder. You have both, and they’re both necessary. There’s no guarantee that when disorder erupts this will bring about an awakening or a deepening, but there’s always the possibility. It is an opportunity, but often, it is missed.

 So here we are at this time, and our mission is the same: to align with the present moment, with whatever is happening here and now. The upheaval that we’re experiencing at the present time probably will not be the last upheaval that’s going to come on a collective level. However, it is an opportunity—because although this is a time for upheavals, it is also a time for awakening. The two go together. Just as in an individual life, you need adversity to awaken. It’s an opportunity but not a guarantee. And so what looks tragic and unpleasant on a conventional level is actually perfectly fine and as it should be on a higher level; it would not be happening otherwise. It’s all part of the awakening of human beings and of planetary awakening.

To learn more about Eckhart’s teachings on Conscious Manifestation, click here.

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Great advice everyone’s sick of hearing in 2020:

Look on the bright side!
There’s always a silver lining.
Everything happens for a reason.

Even as a relentless optimist, this year has brought seemingly never-ending reminders that we never know what’s coming next. It’s in these times of uncertainty that we need hope the most.

Today on MarieTV is a woman who knows about the resiliency of the human spirit. Dr. Edith Eva Eger survived the Holocaust, became an eminent psychologist and PTSD expert, and might be my favorite MarieTV guest of all time.

She wrote her first book at age 90 and just published The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your Life, which should be required reading for all human beings. This is not hyperbolic. I’ve read thousands of books at this point, and I assert this with confidence. 

Edith writes, “I can’t say that everything happens for a reason, that there’s a purpose in injustice or suffering, but I can say that pain, hardship, and suffering are the gift that helps us grow, and learn, and become who we are meant to be.”


I can't say that everything happens for a reason, but I can say that pain, hardship, and suffering are the gifts that help us grow, and learn, and become who we are meant to be. @DrEdithEger1
Click To Tweet


This powerhouse of a woman radiated strength and love throughout our conversation. We laughed. We cried. We high-kicked. She shows us all how to find the gift in everything, especially that which is most painful, difficult, and heart-breaking.

If you’ve ever been… human, this one is a MUST-watch, must-listen, and must-share.

You’ll learn:

1:19 — The story of Edie’s 1st day in Auschwitz & the decision she never forgave herself for.
9:52 — Want a good life? What to say to yourself when you get up in the morning.
10:49 — Why Auschwitz was “hell on earth” and “the best classroom.”
17:03 — How to comfort someone who’s in pain with just 2 words.
23:44 — The secret to staying young (and publishing a book at 92!)
26:42 — Her unbelievable response when a patient said, “I want to make America white again.”
36:34 — The difference between faith and belief.

Watch ‘til the end and you’ll get to see us both high-kick for joy. 

Hit play to watch now or listen on The Marie Forleo Podcast.

View Transcript

Check out this episode on The Marie Forleo Podcast

Listen Now

DIVE DEEPER: Learn What To Say (and Not Say) When Someone Suffers a Tragedy and How To Turn Negative Vibes into Positive Fuel

What’s your biggest aha or take away from today’s episode with Dr. Edith Eger?

It’s important to take time to reflect because our thoughts are SO powerful. As Edith writes in The Gift, “I now recognize the most damaging prison is in our mind, and the key is in our pocket. It’s possible to break free from whatever holds us back. It’s not easy, but so worth it.”

In the comments below, let me know one thing that is giving you hope right now OR share a time you found the gift in a challenging experience.

Your words are a gift to this community. Thank you for being here and for being YOU.

All my love,

XO

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