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The Opportunity in Adversity

By Eckhart Tolle

Life unfolds between the polarities of order and chaos. It is important at this time to recognize these two fundamental opposites, without which the world could not even be. Another word for disorder is “adversity.” When it becomes more extreme, we might call it “chaos.”

We would prefer, of course, to have order in our lives, which means to have things going well. We would like relative harmony in our lives. Yet, that very often is marred by the eruption of some form of disorder. And, usually, we resent that—we get angry, or despondent, or sad.

Disorder comes in many, many forms, big and small. When disorder comes it usually creates a kind of havoc in our lives, accompanied by strong underlying beliefs. “There’s something very wrong, this should not be happening, maybe God is against me,” and so on. Again, we need to understand that disorder, or adversity, is inevitable and is an essential part of a higher order.

 From a higher perspective, a higher level, the existence of order and disorder, or order and chaos, is a necessary part of the evolution of life.

 Many people have found that they experience a deepening, or a deeper sense of self or beingness, immediately after and as a result of having endured a period of disorder or chaos. This is sometimes called “the dark night of the soul,” a term from medieval Christianity used to describe the mental breakdown that many mystics experienced prior to awakening spiritually. There was an eruption of disorder, of destruction. Then, out of that, a deeper realization arose.

 And although that can be very painful, the strange thing is, it’s precisely there that many humans experience a transcendence. A strange fact is that it almost never happens that people awaken spiritually while they’re in their comfort zone. Or that they become deeper as human beings, which would be a partial awakening. It almost never happens. The place where the evolutionary shift happens, or the evolutionary leap, is usually the experience of disorder in a person’s life.

And so your life then moves between order and disorder. You have both, and they’re both necessary. There’s no guarantee that when disorder erupts this will bring about an awakening or a deepening, but there’s always the possibility. It is an opportunity, but often, it is missed.

 So here we are at this time, and our mission is the same: to align with the present moment, with whatever is happening here and now. The upheaval that we’re experiencing at the present time probably will not be the last upheaval that’s going to come on a collective level. However, it is an opportunity—because although this is a time for upheavals, it is also a time for awakening. The two go together. Just as in an individual life, you need adversity to awaken. It’s an opportunity but not a guarantee. And so what looks tragic and unpleasant on a conventional level is actually perfectly fine and as it should be on a higher level; it would not be happening otherwise. It’s all part of the awakening of human beings and of planetary awakening.

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With quarantine limitations still in order here in the US, spending so much time at home has brought up some interesting challenges.

Even though I’ve worked from home for two years, this period of time has taught me that working from home can easily blur the lines between work and self-care.

When your home is also your office, bringing work into your self-care space can create some hazy boundaries. This makes it hard to a) find the motivation to work and/or b) switch off from work.

Working from home can blur the lines between productivity and self-care. Here's how to balance work and self-care when you work from home.

When I was working in an office, I found it easy to mentally check out from work as soon as I left the office at 5pm. But now, I’ll catch myself making dinner at 5 then going back to my computer while I eat (so bad, I know).

Working from home means the same place where you eat, relax, and socialize becomes associated with work.

If you’re on regular Zoom calls, your work meetings are now in your sacred space. It’s almost like inviting your co-workers into your living room for a meeting.

To add to this, your typical forms of escape from work might not be available with quarantine limitations still in effect. For example, the yoga studio, the gym, your local pool, and the coffee shop where you would catch up with a friend.

The places and activities that you associate with self-care aren’t available right now. This can make it hard to disengage from work while simultaneously making you feel like you’re resting too much.

In this post, I’m sharing a few tips that have been helping me to set boundaries so I can better balance work and rest from home.

How To Balance Work & Self-Care When You Work From Home

Working from home can blur the lines between productivity and self-care. Here's how to balance work and self-care when you work from home.

1. Create a ritual to bookmark the start and end of the day

When working in an office, your commute might have been your signal that the workday was starting or ending. Working from home makes it a little harder to keep a similar structure.

A friend of mine said during the first few weeks of working from home, she would roll out of bed at 7:55am to check in on her computer at 8am. She was enjoying getting the extra sleep knowing she didn’t have to commute.  After doing this for a while, she started to crave some time to herself before work. She began getting up around 7 instead to make time for a cup of tea and journaling, which gives her a chance to get ready for the day ahead.

Be intentional with how you want to start and end your day. Think of the time before and after work like your wind-up and wind-down time.

At the end of the day, do whatever you can to get out of the work mentality. Turn off your computer screen, close your laptop, and get away from your desk. I also find that going for a walk around the block at the end of the workday helps to decompress, and it almost feels like a mini-commute (but much more enjoyable). 

2. Set a time to stop working and checking notifications

When you’re spending most of your time at home, it’s tempting to check your phone or computer after hours. Since they’re always in close proximity, you might find it hard to resist checking in if you find yourself with nothing to do. 

Create a boundary to help you maintain this separation between work and rest time. That might look like not checking emails before 8am or after 5pm, or setting app limits from 6pm until 8am the next day.

On the weekends, it can be tempting to work when you have the resources right in front of you. If you want a work-free weekend, try putting your laptop out of sight, keep your office door closed (if you have an office), and delete your email app from your phone until Monday.

The thing is that you have to set these boundaries for yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.

3. Separate your spaces for work and self-care

Try to create separate spaces, even if they’re small, to separate your work and self-care areas. For example, I have a corner in my living room that I’ve dedicated as my workout spot (which just means it’s where I put my workout mat). It’s not very big, but it’s enough space to do what I need to do.

Another example is sticking to doing work from a dedicated area. If you’ve been using your couch or bed for both work and relaxation, it might be sending confusing signals to your brain. I find that when I work on the couch, I’m less productive and it’s harder to concentrate (even if I’m not watching anything on TV). My back and legs also tend to hurt more because my coffee table isn’t tall enough to work from. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with working from these spots sometimes, but it’s better to have a desk and chair set-up that you use exclusively for work.

If you don’t have the space to separate your work and non-work life, try to create different moods in your home.

For example, you can use scents, sounds, and textures (from clothing) for different times of the day. You could use one essential oil during work and another one for after work. Or you can wear form-fitting (but still comfy) clothes during work and change into your comfiest, loose clothing afterward. Subtle changes like this can create the illusion of separation when you don’t have much space to work with.

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How do you know if people are talking about you behind your back? And once you find out they are, what can you do about it?  It’s one thing if they’re planning a surprise (one you’ll like). It’s a very different thing if they’re saying things they know you wouldn’t like. Not cool.  You want …

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What do you really want?

Just for a second, ignore what your friends, Instagram feed, culture, and coworkers say you should value. Because if you get quiet and ask your soul? I bet we’re not that different.

“At the core, all of us want to be true to who we really are, make a contribution that matters, and be well-compensated for the contribution that we make.”

When today’s MarieTV guest, Rha Goddess, said those words, it struck a deep chord.

After starting her career as a “starving spiritual artist,” Rha became the CEO and changemaker behind Move The Crowd, a coaching and consulting firm that’s been featured in Time Magazine, Variety, Essence, and Fast Company.

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She’s a social entrepreneur, activist, and author of the brilliant book The Calling, a step-by-step blueprint for finding your purpose and making your highest, most profitable contribution.

Whether or not you believe you have a calling, don’t miss this conversation.

You’ll learn:

2:59 — How Rha went from starving artist to world-changing CEO.
7:30 — Six spiritual steps to transform any area of your life.
10:32 — How to release the victim mentality… for good.
11:38 — An unpopular truth about abundance.
19:23 — What 2020 is trying to tell us.
23:28 — Rha’s go-to daily journaling routine.
30:39 — Three sacred practices to create lasting fulfillment.
34:00 — Why you should STOP searching for your purpose (and what to do instead).

If you’ve ever longed for a purpose, you’ll love this episode.

Rha speaks with such presence and poignance. You’ll see me shout, “I love you!” throughout our conversation, because I just couldn’t contain my adoration.

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DIVE DEEPER: Answer these three questions to be true to yourself and find the work you were meant to do in this interview with Chris Guillebeau.

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Rha believes generosity is our natural state of being and contribution is a fundamental human need. She says, “When you align with the truth of who you are, you’ll have no choice but to give. You can’t stop the giving, because when you are fully realized, that’s all you want to do.”

Are you living a life true to yourself? Fully realized? Overflowing with generosity?

To reflect, ask yourself these questions:

  1. Where am I being true to myself in my life and work? Where am I out of alignment?
  2. What’s one action I can take to realign with myself?
  3. What specific ways can I earn and spend that provide more good than harm in the world?

In the comments below, share your answers with us. We’d love to cheer you on. 

The world needs you to step into your fullest, highest self. Or as Rha says, “Enoughness is a very powerful place to be.”


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How do you know if people are talking about you behind your back? And once you find out they are, what can you do about it?  It’s one thing if they’re planning a surprise (one you’ll like). It’s a very different thing if they’re saying things they know you wouldn’t like. Not cool.  You want …

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By Leo Babauta

In the last week, two separate men told me they fantasize about leaving everything behind and living on a mountain.

I can relate to this fantasy, because I’ve had it myself — live a simple life, away from the chaos and burden of this crazy world.

What we (and many others) crave is not really the mountain, but freedom. Simplicity and space and the liberating feeling of freedom.

We think if we simplify and let everything go and get our lives free of the burdens, we’ll feel free.

But what I’ve found is that getting rid of everything and living a simple life doesn’t necessarily give you that freedom. You’ll find a way to experience life as burden and trapped. That’s because we create the feeling of burden and trappedness for ourselves. It’s not the external circumstances, but something we create with our minds.

A teacher a few years ago gifted me with a liberating idea: find the freedom in your current life, without having to change a thing.

And I’ve found that it’s completely possible. And also that I forget to do it, a lot!

If you’re interested in playing with this, you can try it now. In this moment, can you find a freeing of freedom? Can you experience this moment as if you were living a simple burden-free life on a mountaintop? Can you create this feeling of freedom for yourself right now?

It’s a relaxing of the mind, a feeling of openness and liberation, of joy and space. And we create it.

If you can do that, try this practice:

  1. In anything you do today and for the next few days, try to remember to practice creating freedom. You might be washing a dish, answering an email, talking to someone, driving, anything.
  2. Notice in the moment the feeling of burden and closedness that you’ve created for yourself.
  3. See if you can create a feeling of freedom without changing what you’re doing externally.
  4. Enjoy this joyous feeling of freedom!
  5. And repeat, all day long.

What is it like to live freedom without having to change anything? This doesn’t mean you never change anything externally, but it means you’re liberated from having to do so.