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Pandemic life has taught many of us to appreciate moments in life that might otherwise pass us by. I’ve been trying to pause and take note of how I feel at the end of the day, often as I walk in the park or one of my nearby neighborhoods.

With that in mind, here’s a tip inspired by The Art of Stopping Time, a book by Pedram Shojai: whenever you visit a place that’s new to you, consider the sense that you might never be there again.

Just imagine: this might be it! Your one and only opportunity in a lifetime to visit this particular place. How might this realization make you feel?

What, you say you aren’t traveling much now? That’s okay.

This “new place” could be anywhere: a part of the woods you’ve never seen on your next nature hike, for example, or even a street in your neighborhood you’ve never driven down before. The point is to create awareness and appreciation.

I wish I’d had this concept in mind many years ago when I was traveling to several new countries every month. Looking back now, I can remember dozens of highlights that might fit the category of “never returning.”

In Somaliland, I rode several hours in a crowded minibus, listening to people chatter away. We stopped for food (goat stew! I’m a vegetarian, but it was interesting to observe) and drank from a shared bottle of Coca-Cola. Those were the days…

In Bosnia, a totally different part of the world, I traveled overland (this time on a full-sized bus) from Sarajevo to Herceg Novi. The city itself was magical. It felt like one of those “Land Before Time” moments.

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As interesting as those experiences were, I don’t know if I’ll ever repeat them. In fact, almost certainly I won’t. Even when I return to traveling more often, Montenegro and Somaliland aren’t that easy to jet off to.

Not only that, even though I can remember dozens of highlights from my adventures, I’m sure there are hundreds—thousands even—that I’ve forgotten or simply don’t come to mind when I think about this concept.

That’s why it’s good to consider the concept while you’re in a new place. It might help you remember it later, but even if not, you’ll have the moment of appreciation while you’re there.

Oh, and I like thinking about this idea for travel, but technically I suppose you could apply it to anything, even not something related to being in a particular place.

Whatever you’re doing or experiencing today, you might never do or experience it again. Let it sink in and consider how it feels.

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The Opportunity in Adversity

By Eckhart Tolle

Life unfolds between the polarities of order and chaos. It is important at this time to recognize these two fundamental opposites, without which the world could not even be. Another word for disorder is “adversity.” When it becomes more extreme, we might call it “chaos.”

We would prefer, of course, to have order in our lives, which means to have things going well. We would like relative harmony in our lives. Yet, that very often is marred by the eruption of some form of disorder. And, usually, we resent that—we get angry, or despondent, or sad.

Disorder comes in many, many forms, big and small. When disorder comes it usually creates a kind of havoc in our lives, accompanied by strong underlying beliefs. “There’s something very wrong, this should not be happening, maybe God is against me,” and so on. Again, we need to understand that disorder, or adversity, is inevitable and is an essential part of a higher order.

 From a higher perspective, a higher level, the existence of order and disorder, or order and chaos, is a necessary part of the evolution of life.

 Many people have found that they experience a deepening, or a deeper sense of self or beingness, immediately after and as a result of having endured a period of disorder or chaos. This is sometimes called “the dark night of the soul,” a term from medieval Christianity used to describe the mental breakdown that many mystics experienced prior to awakening spiritually. There was an eruption of disorder, of destruction. Then, out of that, a deeper realization arose.

 And although that can be very painful, the strange thing is, it’s precisely there that many humans experience a transcendence. A strange fact is that it almost never happens that people awaken spiritually while they’re in their comfort zone. Or that they become deeper as human beings, which would be a partial awakening. It almost never happens. The place where the evolutionary shift happens, or the evolutionary leap, is usually the experience of disorder in a person’s life.

And so your life then moves between order and disorder. You have both, and they’re both necessary. There’s no guarantee that when disorder erupts this will bring about an awakening or a deepening, but there’s always the possibility. It is an opportunity, but often, it is missed.

 So here we are at this time, and our mission is the same: to align with the present moment, with whatever is happening here and now. The upheaval that we’re experiencing at the present time probably will not be the last upheaval that’s going to come on a collective level. However, it is an opportunity—because although this is a time for upheavals, it is also a time for awakening. The two go together. Just as in an individual life, you need adversity to awaken. It’s an opportunity but not a guarantee. And so what looks tragic and unpleasant on a conventional level is actually perfectly fine and as it should be on a higher level; it would not be happening otherwise. It’s all part of the awakening of human beings and of planetary awakening.

To learn more about Eckhart’s teachings on Conscious Manifestation, click here.

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Let’s get real: If we’re really honest with ourselves, we all have a little self-loathing going on from time to time. OK, maybe a lot of self-loathing going on, depending on the degree of trauma you’ve sustained, and how many episodes of Teletubbies you were subjected to as a child.

But here’s the good news, self-hatred is just part of the human condition. There’s nothing inherently “wrong” with you because you intensely dislike or feel ashamed of certain unsavory aspects of yourself. Everyone does. Even Oprah has to hate herself some of the time, I’m pretty sure. And I’m no exception, of course. After all, I’m writing a listicle for a website—I must hate some deep, dark corner of myself.

Why We Hate Ourselves

Emotions exist as your brain’s way of telling you something good or bad is happening in your life so you can act on it. They are feedback designed to make us better. After all, life isn’t one long Teletubbies episode for you to silently suffer through.

Hatred, particularly aimed at yourself, is simply one of many negative emotions. It’s a feedback mechanism that tells you things are not dandy in your world. We all have dreams we’ve failed to live up to, ideals we’ve failed to embody, actions we wish we had or hadn’t done, ways in which we wish we could be different. Hating ourselves when these things happen is normal. Self-hate, as with all emotions, only becomes a problem when you don’t know how to deal with it

Dealing With the Hate

Some of us deal with our self-hate through avoidance—we sleepwalk through life, never making any serious decisions, following others, and avoiding all difficult tasks or confrontations. Some of us deal with it by numbing ourselves with sex or substances or obsession or distraction. Others try to overcompensate by trying to save the world and bring about a utopia and maybe start another World War in the process.

Telltale Signs That You Hate Yourself

  • You believe you’re a rotten piece of shit.
  • You think other people are constantly judging you, and live in fear of being “found out” for the failure of a human being that you are.
  • You have no boundaries in your relationships, always at others’ beck and call.
  • Your life is a hot mess, but you don’t have time to sort that shit out because work, your friends, global warming, etc. is more important.
  • You always find yourself on binges—ice cream, Netflix, the Xbox, booze, sex.
  • You struggle to empathize with others and what they go through.

If you’re being honest, you’ll likely recognize some—hell, maybe even all—of the above signs in yourself. And that’s totally fine. In fact, it would be worrying if you didn’t.

Hating Yourself Less

The goal here isn’t to get rid of that self-loathing. The only way to do that would be to remove our consciences and/or become psychopaths. And we don’t want that.

I also don’t recommend suppressing your self-loathing by covering it up with fake self-esteem, or else you might end up shooting up a nightclub in Orlando.

No, the solution is to merely minimize our self-hatred by first becoming aware of it, and then learning how to mold it and shape it and control it. The goal here is to manage our disappointments with ourselves, so that they don’t end up managing us.

That’s why this article is called “How to Hate Yourself Less,” not “How to Stop Hating Yourself Forever and Ever and Be God’s Perfect Fucking Snowflake.” There is no perfect fucking snowflake. I lived in Boston, I’ve seen a lot of snowflakes. None of them are perfect. And even if there was, I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t be it.

So, let’s get on with it. Here are nine steps to hate yourself less and learn how to manage your self-loathing better so that you don’t turn into a manic-depressive or, even worse, a religious nutcase who runs around with signs that say “GOD HATES FAGS” on it.

Learn How to Say “No”

The more you hate yourself, the more you will try to please and impress the other people around you all the time. After all, if you secretly believe that you’re a rotten piece of shit, then it follows that you will overvalue what other people think of you, and you will unconsciously dedicate all of your efforts to manipulating them into thinking you’re not the awful person you secretly believe you are.

The word “yes” gets a lot of hype these days, but I want to bring back the power of saying “no.”

Saying no is pretty awesome when you know when and how to say it right. You say no to doing a bunch of meaningless shit that you don’t think is important in life. You say no to people who overstep their boundaries and make unfair demands of your time or attention. You say no to make it clear to others where you stand and what you will/will not tolerate in your relationships. No is awesome.

Saying these noes is difficult, of course. That’s because the ability to say a healthy no requires a certain degree of self-respect and self-care. But saying no to the people and things that harm your life rather than help is often the first step to learning how to love and care for yourself.

Oh, and of course, you learn to say no to yourself too, to discipline yourself and keep yourself in check, to remind yourself that you don’t, in fact, know everything or even know what the hell you’re saying or doing half the time. This is such an underrated skill, yet it seems to be lost these days in the “give me one of everything” age.

Oh, and while we’re saying no to ourselves…

Stop Masturbating All the Damn Time

No, I don’t mean stop diddling your special parts. Although if you’re doing that like 15 times a day, you may want to cut down a bit.

What I mean is masturbation in a more figurative sense—all of those superficial, self-pleasuring habits you indulge in on a regular basis. Whether it’s eating eleven too many desserts, or staying up until 4AM trying to rank up in League of Legends, or lying to your buddies and telling them you totally banged that hot blonde last Saturday when really, you just got so drunk that you passed out in a fetal position in the backseat of your car.

These are all petty, insignificant self-indulgences. And it’s hard these days. No, not your cock—resisting giving into them is hard. Because they do feel good. For a little while. But their meaninglessness will eventually consume you.

There’s this really weird chapter in Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich where he talks about how Thomas Edison refused to have sex or something and that’s how he came up with 10,000 patents. I don’t know, it made very little sense, but the idea was that sex releases energy that could otherwise be directed towards more productive and useful endeavors.

I’m not going to go that far, as I like polishing the old knob as much as the next guy. But I think the real lesson here is to learn how to self-regulate your self-indulgences. Again, it comes back to knowing when to say no to yourself. Make these indulgences the cherry to your life’s cupcake. Not the cupcake itself.

(And no, you may not eat the cupcake.)

Expose the Hate

Usually the things you hate most about yourself are the things you hide from the rest of the world. They are the things that you believe will cause people to reject you and hurt you and point and laugh at you.

But these fears are often unfounded. Because often the things we hate about ourselves are the very same things everyone else hates about themselves. It’s like a game of poker where everyone thinks they have the worst hand and is afraid to play because they’re convinced they’ll lose, so everyone just hides their cards because they’re embarrassed.

The irony here is that love is most often achieved by finding someone sexy that embraces and even adores those deepest, darkest aspects of you, and you embrace and even adore the deepest, darkest aspects of them. What I’m saying is, you gotta share that shit in order to heal it, son.

That is, of course, assuming you’re willing and/or able to forgive people and/or yourself.

Forgive People, Including Yourself

Forgiveness gets a lot of airtime, but in a culture as punitive as the US, it doesn’t feel as though many people actually, you know, practice it.

Forgiving means recognizing something sucks and still loving the person (or yourself) despite it.

How does one do that, exactly? Recognize the good intentions or at least the ignorance behind most evil/bad/undesirable actions. For instance, most people don’t do bad shit because they’re evil, they do it because they don’t know better or they wrongly believe they’re justified. Often it helps to remember your own failures and ignorance when forgiving someone else for theirs.

And this is why dealing with your own self-hatred is so important—the less you’re able to recognize and accept the parts of yourself that you don’t like, the less you’ll be able to forgive and let go of the wrongs of others. And the more of a raging, judgmental asshole you will be.

Take a Nap

Seriously, you look tired.

Let Yourself Fail

Your self-love is not proportional to how you feel about your successes. Your self-love is how you feel about your failures. A person who loves and cares for themselves does not have an overwhelming need to do everything right or perfect or correct the first time.

On the contrary, they’re more than willing to get dirty and mess up because they understand that this is where true growth and progress comes from.

Achieve Your Wildest Dreams—Then Forget About Them

Become rich, dominate your field, find the love of your life.

Realize it doesn’t deliver all of the meaning and fulfillment you thought it would.

Have an existential crisis and near breakdown as you figure out what the hell the point of your life is anyway.

Then re-dedicate yourself to the simple service of others and the simple pleasures for yourself.

Except for too much masturbation, of course.

Both Your Positive and Your Negative Self-Talk Is Bullshit, so Stop Engaging in It

Here was a big life-changer for me: realizing that if all of the nasty and horrible things I said to myself about myself were untrue, then all of the amazing, badass things I told myself about myself were probably untrue as well.

The fact is, you don’t really know what’s true about yourself or how you measure up to the world. The fact is, your brain sucks and it can’t be trusted. The fact is, you aren’t that special, and that’s probably a good thing. Being special creates unreasonable expectations, and unreasonable expectations creates an extra special variety of self-loathing.

Take the Most Important Ambition or Failure in Your Life and Go Ask a Four-Year-Old What They Think About It

They’ll likely giggle and ask you to pretend you’re a tree and play horsies with them. And their response will be totally appropriate and correct.

Because whether you’re trying to cure cancer, discover cold fusion energy, or make it to the bar when it opens to resume your downward spiral of day drinking, you’re still human, and you still have the ability to connect and empathize and play with the life given to you. And four-year-olds have an amazing ability to remind you of that.

Cindy does give a shit about your life plans.
Cindy doesn’t give a shit about your life plans.

I guess what I’m getting at with all these steps is developing a healthy practice of humility.

Yeah, humility. How often do we hear that word thrown around these days?

You either think everything about your life is the worst thing ever, or everything you do must be the best thing ever in order to compensate. And none of the above are true. Cindy, the four-year-old, gets that. That’s why she asked you to be a tree. But instead you’re hiding your flask and trying to explain to her how you’re going to solve global warming on the back of a cocktail napkin. But just shut up for a minute and be a tree.

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Fear will always do one of two things:

Keep you stuck. 

Or make you fierce.

The result depends on you. Are your fears holding you back? Or are they helping you become fully engaged — living a purposeful life true to yourself?

Our guest today on MarieTV will help you recognize where you fall. 

Koya Webb is a celebrity health coach, activist, and founder of the international yoga school Get Loved Up. She’s also the author of Let Your Fears Make You Fierce: How to Turn Common Obstacles into Seeds for Growth

Koya knows a thing or two about fear. She writes, “I’ve lived in it. I know firsthand how abuse, depression, and suffering can make you afraid to live and crush your dreams.” But that’s just the beginning of her story.


Our perspective can bring us to a paradise, or it can keep us in prison. @KoyaWebb
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The truth is, “You are not a victim; you are a creator.”

This conversation made me laugh-cry and cry-cry as Koya told me about her promising path to the Olympics, her hilarious first time doing yoga, and the series of personal traumas she tried to ignore for years.

You’ll also learn how to:

  • Reverse any limiting belief using 4 simple words.
  • Break the cycle of burnout (KEY for you overachievers!).
  • Recognize the voice of your intuition.
  • Release negative emotions.
  • Heal the childhood wounds that are holding you back.
  • Take back your time with a handy scheduling trick.

Whether or not you’re struggling with fear or anxiety, this episode is a must watch. Koya’s joy will lift your spirits, guaranteed.

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DIVE DEEPER: Learn 3 steps to be ambitious and still have inner peace and let the first lady of yoga, Colleen Saidman Yee, remind you that you’re enough as you are right now.

Now, Koya and I would love to hear from you.

In the comments below, answer these two questions:

  1. What’s your biggest insight, takeaway, or aha from this episode?
  2. What’s one action you can take towards your dream — from where you are, right now?

You’ll never rid yourself completely of fear or self-doubt. There’ll never be a perfect time to pursue your dreams. There is only now.

As Koya says: “You can help people right now. You’re good enough right now. You don’t need an Olympic gold medal. You can start.”

Speaking of… if you’re looking to fast-track your growth, achieve extraordinary results, and save yourself years of expensive trial and error, B-School enrollment is OPEN.

Koya herself is a proud graduate and I’d be honored to support you in building the business of your dreams.

XO

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The Opportunity in Adversity

By Eckhart Tolle

Life unfolds between the polarities of order and chaos. It is important at this time to recognize these two fundamental opposites, without which the world could not even be. Another word for disorder is “adversity.” When it becomes more extreme, we might call it “chaos.”

We would prefer, of course, to have order in our lives, which means to have things going well. We would like relative harmony in our lives. Yet, that very often is marred by the eruption of some form of disorder. And, usually, we resent that—we get angry, or despondent, or sad.

Disorder comes in many, many forms, big and small. When disorder comes it usually creates a kind of havoc in our lives, accompanied by strong underlying beliefs. “There’s something very wrong, this should not be happening, maybe God is against me,” and so on. Again, we need to understand that disorder, or adversity, is inevitable and is an essential part of a higher order.

 From a higher perspective, a higher level, the existence of order and disorder, or order and chaos, is a necessary part of the evolution of life.

 Many people have found that they experience a deepening, or a deeper sense of self or beingness, immediately after and as a result of having endured a period of disorder or chaos. This is sometimes called “the dark night of the soul,” a term from medieval Christianity used to describe the mental breakdown that many mystics experienced prior to awakening spiritually. There was an eruption of disorder, of destruction. Then, out of that, a deeper realization arose.

 And although that can be very painful, the strange thing is, it’s precisely there that many humans experience a transcendence. A strange fact is that it almost never happens that people awaken spiritually while they’re in their comfort zone. Or that they become deeper as human beings, which would be a partial awakening. It almost never happens. The place where the evolutionary shift happens, or the evolutionary leap, is usually the experience of disorder in a person’s life.

And so your life then moves between order and disorder. You have both, and they’re both necessary. There’s no guarantee that when disorder erupts this will bring about an awakening or a deepening, but there’s always the possibility. It is an opportunity, but often, it is missed.

 So here we are at this time, and our mission is the same: to align with the present moment, with whatever is happening here and now. The upheaval that we’re experiencing at the present time probably will not be the last upheaval that’s going to come on a collective level. However, it is an opportunity—because although this is a time for upheavals, it is also a time for awakening. The two go together. Just as in an individual life, you need adversity to awaken. It’s an opportunity but not a guarantee. And so what looks tragic and unpleasant on a conventional level is actually perfectly fine and as it should be on a higher level; it would not be happening otherwise. It’s all part of the awakening of human beings and of planetary awakening.

To learn more about Eckhart’s teachings on Conscious Manifestation, click here.

Join for free and receive upcoming articles, teachings, special announcements, and more.

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Oral health and COVID-19 present new challenges for the millions whose dental health is critical around the world. It’s more crucial than ever, especially with thousands to millions of adults living with untreated dental conditions and/or pain.

Besides this, oral health is associated with various chronic conditions such as diabetes and heart disease, which pose immediate health risks, requiring urgent care. And recent studies show that the COVID-19 virus may cause damage to our oral health, which can contribute to the heightened risk of complications.

But how exactly does the coronavirus impact our oral health? Read on to find out.

 Oral Health and COVID-19

Here are the factors that link oral health and COVID-19:

1. Could cytokine storms be causing oral health problems?

Cytokine Storm has been associated with COVID-19, causing our bodies’ immune system to switch itself on, which may be a reason for the COVID-19 symptom to remain.

Medical authorities and scientists have suggested that another reason for the damage to our mouths and oral cavities may impact those who have higher viral loads present in their mouths and/or nasal cavities.

This is because our mouths are hosts to various ACE2 receptors, and this is what SARS-COV2 latches on to and will replicate. This may have us suffer from milder forms of the infection.

The reason the system switches on for even longer, despite the reduced virus count from our body, is still unclear.

2. Dental damage could affect kids too

Unfortunately, while kids are spared from the serious side effects and after the effects of the infection may experience dental problems. According to COVID-19 survivors who recorded their post-infection symptoms, kids suffer from gum infection, tooth loss and decay, teeth loosening, among other vasculature damage from this infection.

3. The mouth could harbor the virus

Another interesting fact is that when COVID-19 will infect the body, it would latch onto the part of our cells known as ACE2 receptors. Such receptors are rich in various parts of our body, such as our lungs, which explains the respiratory damage the infection inflicts). The mouth is also flush with these receptors!

Research also shows that because of the high amount of ACE2 receptors on our mouths, oral cavities would be the optimal environment for COVID-19 to stay and replicate.

Besides COVID-19, there are other viruses that can infect oral cavities directly, such as herpes, foot and mouth disease, and the Coxsackievirus. There is also HIC, causing oral pain, bone loss, along with dental decay from the immunodeficiency.  These are just a few among the many other viruses, which can also affect the immune system in ways that bacteria would build up in our mouths, leading to other issues.

4. Gingival inflammation

Bleeding and inflammation in our oral tissues have been suggested as a result of generalized increases in inflammation because of the rising levels of cytokines and interleukins, which begun with the SARS CoV-2 virus.

The COVID-19 disease severity has shown to be linked to immune dysregulation, which leads to cytokine storms. Periodontal disease may also increase the levels of circulating cytokines, especially in the interleukin-6, an implication of major interleukin that leads to cytokine storms.

5. Oral ulcerations and gingival tissue breakdown

COVID-19 was seen to be associated with vascularity anomalies because of the viral damage on the blood vessels. The president and medical director of the Angiogenesis Foundation, William Li, MD, described the process where the virus enters the endothelial cells lining with blood vessels from the ACE2 receptors, damaging them. This leads to oxygen deprivation.

Furthermore, tissue necrosis, along with oral ulcerations, may be a result of vessel damage. Tissue damage and ulceration may be exacerbated even further from increased inflammation and the upregulation of inflammatory markers because of the SARC-CoV-2 virus.

There are also case reports cited in the literature, showing that confirmed COVID-19-positive patients with oral ulcerations are suspected to have been caused by the SARS-CoV-2 virus.

6. Why this is a concerning sign

Yes, all these mentioned above are very concerning. The risks of such lasting issues and side-effects would outrank those that already have problems including uncontrolled blood pressure, sugar levels, cancer, and immunodeficiency, leaving them even more vulnerable to the damage.

Another risk factor for dental decay from COVID-19 would be underlying dental issues. Furthermore, the poor attention people have on their dental health because of the pandemic may also make problems worse for those who are COVID-19 positive.

7. When to see your dentist

Oral pain can indicate infections, so it’s crucial to take this seriously and go to the dentist when you feel tooth pain. Other situations that require immediate care would be broken teeth and dental work.

However, during the early weeks of the pandemic, various areas mandated the restriction of non-emergency dental procedures. In response to the mandate, care providers created teledentistry services. This is a remote and virtual consultation with dental professionals such as dental implants Brisbane, which can help you know whether you can delay dental care or not

If you experience a loose tooth or dental work that’s failing, keep the affected area clean without it dislodging. You may want to insert floss around loose restorations, gently pulling it through the side so you avoid lifting any broken dental work out.

For those who have completely deboned crowns, you can sometimes recement it temporarily using over-the-counter dental cement or toothpaste. You can consult a dentist using teledentistry consultations to determine if this is a good decision, or if the dentist has another solution.

There are very few rare oral problems that indicate life-threatening emergencies. If ever you experience difficulty in breathing or swallowing or uncontrolled bleeding around or inside your mouth, you must seek emergency care immediately. The same goes for extreme pain and/or high fevers that are associated with dental problems.

Wrapping It Up

While there needs to be more research to establish a direct link between COVID-19 and oral health, it’s still crucial to care for our mouth to prevent further complications, whether in COVID-19 or other diseases. There are connections between the two which already show how important it is to take care of our teeth!

Hopefully, this article informed you of the damaging effects COVID-19 may have on your oral health. Make sure you learn more about what needs to be done to maintain good oral health and a healthy immune system to prevent COVID-19 from spreading.

Do you have questions or want to share your experiences and knowledge on COVID-19 and oral health? Share them in the comments section below. I appreciate what you have to think!

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Fear will always do one of two things:

Keep you stuck. 

Or make you fierce.

The result depends on you. Are your fears holding you back? Or are they helping you become fully engaged — living a purposeful life true to yourself?

Our guest today on MarieTV will help you recognize where you fall. 

Koya Webb is a celebrity health coach, activist, and founder of the international yoga school Get Loved Up. She’s also the author of Let Your Fears Make You Fierce: How to Turn Common Obstacles into Seeds for Growth

Koya knows a thing or two about fear. She writes, “I’ve lived in it. I know firsthand how abuse, depression, and suffering can make you afraid to live and crush your dreams.” But that’s just the beginning of her story.


Our perspective can bring us to a paradise, or it can keep us in prison. @KoyaWebb
Click To Tweet


The truth is, “You are not a victim; you are a creator.”

This conversation made me laugh-cry and cry-cry as Koya told me about her promising path to the Olympics, her hilarious first time doing yoga, and the series of personal traumas she tried to ignore for years.

You’ll also learn how to:

  • Reverse any limiting belief using 4 simple words.
  • Break the cycle of burnout (KEY for you overachievers!).
  • Recognize the voice of your intuition.
  • Release negative emotions.
  • Heal the childhood wounds that are holding you back.
  • Take back your time with a handy scheduling trick.

Whether or not you’re struggling with fear or anxiety, this episode is a must watch. Koya’s joy will lift your spirits, guaranteed.

View Transcript

Check out this episode on The Marie Forleo Podcast

Listen Now

DIVE DEEPER: Learn 3 steps to be ambitious and still have inner peace and let the first lady of yoga, Colleen Saidman Yee, remind you that you’re enough as you are right now.

Now, Koya and I would love to hear from you.

In the comments below, answer these two questions:

  1. What’s your biggest insight, takeaway, or aha from this episode?
  2. What’s one action you can take towards your dream — from where you are, right now?

You’ll never rid yourself completely of fear or self-doubt. There’ll never be a perfect time to pursue your dreams. There is only now.

As Koya says: “You can help people right now. You’re good enough right now. You don’t need an Olympic gold medal. You can start.”

Speaking of… if you’re looking to fast-track your growth, achieve extraordinary results, and save yourself years of expensive trial and error, B-School enrollment is OPEN.

Koya herself is a proud graduate and I’d be honored to support you in building the business of your dreams.

XO

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Pandemic life has taught many of us to appreciate moments in life that might otherwise pass us by. I’ve been trying to pause and take note of how I feel at the end of the day, often as I walk in the park or one of my nearby neighborhoods.

With that in mind, here’s a tip inspired by The Art of Stopping Time, a book by Pedram Shojai: whenever you visit a place that’s new to you, consider the sense that you might never be there again.

Just imagine: this might be it! Your one and only opportunity in a lifetime to visit this particular place. How might this realization make you feel?

What, you say you aren’t traveling much now? That’s okay.

This “new place” could be anywhere: a part of the woods you’ve never seen on your next nature hike, for example, or even a street in your neighborhood you’ve never driven down before. The point is to create awareness and appreciation.

I wish I’d had this concept in mind many years ago when I was traveling to several new countries every month. Looking back now, I can remember dozens of highlights that might fit the category of “never returning.”

In Somaliland, I rode several hours in a crowded minibus, listening to people chatter away. We stopped for food (goat stew! I’m a vegetarian, but it was interesting to observe) and drank from a shared bottle of Coca-Cola. Those were the days…

In Bosnia, a totally different part of the world, I traveled overland (this time on a full-sized bus) from Sarajevo to Herceg Novi. The city itself was magical. It felt like one of those “Land Before Time” moments.

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As interesting as those experiences were, I don’t know if I’ll ever repeat them. In fact, almost certainly I won’t. Even when I return to traveling more often, Montenegro and Somaliland aren’t that easy to jet off to.

Not only that, even though I can remember dozens of highlights from my adventures, I’m sure there are hundreds—thousands even—that I’ve forgotten or simply don’t come to mind when I think about this concept.

That’s why it’s good to consider the concept while you’re in a new place. It might help you remember it later, but even if not, you’ll have the moment of appreciation while you’re there.

Oh, and I like thinking about this idea for travel, but technically I suppose you could apply it to anything, even not something related to being in a particular place.

Whatever you’re doing or experiencing today, you might never do or experience it again. Let it sink in and consider how it feels.

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By Leo Babauta

Today my sons & I were standing at the edge of the pool, on a cold day, knowing that the water we were about to jump into was freezing.

It was Day 27 of my first 40-day discomfort challenge … and we were dreading the cold water.

We knew it would be shockingly cold, because we’ve jumped into it for the past 26 days. We really didn’t want to do it, but we’re committed to this.

And then I invited myself to a mindset shift: can I bring curiosity to this moment?

This moment I have already judged as bad, this experience I’ve already put into a fixed box of “hell no” … could I instead let go of my fixed ideas, and just bring curiosity?

What is this moment like, when I’ve dropped my judgments, fixed views, preconceived notions?

It becomes much more open. Much more filled with possibility.

From this place of possibility … I wondered if there was something to savor right now. Is there anything I can enjoy, appreciate, find sacred and beautiful?

I found a lot to savor: the chilly air, the intensely blue sky and low-lying soft clouds, the quiet neighborhood with planes flying overhead and birds calling out to us. I savored this moment of challenge with my sons, this day of being fully alive and able to do meaningful work with others, this day of having loved ones here and scattered elsewhere who I care deeply about.

I found a lot to savor, and suddenly this become a moment of freedom and love. I jumped in, and found the divine.

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